FREEZE! you can't unfreeze yourself

When Dan comes home from work, he and Dawson have a sword fight and play the game FREEZE( among many other things)!.  Dawson runs around the house and yells, FREEZE then one of us freezes and we hold the position we are in until someone says, unfreeze.Dan and I are the only ones that play by the rules, which means you can't unfreeze yourself, someone else has to tell you to unfreeze. So Dan and I unfreeze each other. Well when we tell Dawson to freeze, he unfreezes himself.  FREEZE, UNFREEZE, are you following?

Last night, Dan and I were talking while he put away his work clothes , and I sat on the bed while Dawson sprung around. Dawson jumped in front of me and told me to freeze, so i did. Dan was waiting for a response to his question, he peeked out from the closet, but I couldn't move because.... I was FROZEN. I tired to talk with him through my eyes so he would catch on that I was frozen, He GOT IT and unfroze me and of course, once we have been unfrozen we make this DRAMATIC reaction as if we had been holding our breath the whole time and that we are so relieved that we can move again, it makes Dawson laugh.

 Dan and I continued our conversation, and then he went on to play swords and I sat and thought for a minute.

When Dan had asked me a question, unbeknown to him I was frozen and couldn't answer him back. Now the adult thing to do was that maybe I should have put the game on pause  so I could give Dan an answer. But I didn't (and he quickly unfroze me and it was no biggy).....what I realized is this, How many times do I put an unspoken rule on myself?

For example, A good wife should be....

if I were the ULTIMATE MOM then this... and this... wouldn't happen,


and...... this, is the kind of EMILY I should Be....

Do YOU KNOW how many of these STORIES about myself  I have running in my head, all the while I am not any of these things. Be it that these are good things that I aspire to be, but do I really aspire to be them, or are they the attempt to be what I think i  SHOULD BE? It means I have Five arms and all at one time, I can accomplish a list of things with out missing a beat!  We play all day, the house stays tidy and dinner is done and I still have energy to fold mounds of laundry or read..

But really I play with Dawson but I don't get the dishes done....or ... or.....  I feel as if I am playing catch up, so maybe I need to STOP and let go of SHOULDA WOULDA COULDA

So what does make a good mom? Wife ? Person,self?

I am not sure but I think it's time I set my priorities straight and be realistic. And it's time to not compare myself to others. Maybe if I didn't compare myself  to the women who are in great shape, have 28 children and an perfect home? I could really see what I can improve and also maybe what I do that is good and noteworthy. And maybe all the time I put into worry, I could focus on someone else other than Me..me..me!




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